Message n2

You both look extra gay.

I remember coming back home, you told me the porter had asked if we were both 'real' women.  He couldn't make sense of the fact we were a couple. He said he knew of Elton John, but that's how far his knowledge got. You told him we were married. I don't know if that made things better or worse.

I think about that a lot. Being queer and married.

The night of our wedding I remember joking with a friend and telling them: 'I can't believe I married a lesbian'.

Is desire, always a desire for recognition?

In an interview dating back 1993, Judith Butler describes to the interviewer the painful irony of being implicated in the very forms of power that one explicitly opposes and trying to understand what kind of agency might be derived from that situation.

Am I bad at being queer?