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What are your biggest turn-ons?

I was at the archive yesterday, and I read about someone getting off by looking at a National Geographic's cover.

Death queers, old queens, sad butches, lonely hearts, diesel dykes, leather, cocks, straps.

As it was a boarding school, on games day we were able to go to the dormitories together. One day she drew me in through the door and ran her hands over my breast and kissed me passionately. Then she put her hands under my skirt and drew down my knickers. Her hand seemed to shoot to my sex, and she soon had me very damp. She then put me on the bed and proceeded to spank me, slow but not painfully. Ever since then I have always preferred a woman.  (Sandra Bellamy, Liverpool)

Is queer desire, radical? 

Whatever sameness I've noted in my relationships with women it is not the sameness of Woman, and certainly not the sameness of parts. Rather, it is the shared crushing understanding of what it means to live in a patriarchy.  (Nelson)

We were sitting in the director’s office at the bank and after a few minutes he asks his assistant to bring the documents in, so my husband and I could sign them.


You nor I had (have) any issues in being read as a different gender from the one we identify with, but he knew that you were my wife, he just couldn't (wouldn't?) say it.

It's bizarre how much meaning we attach to words.

Queer unhappiness offers a rather deviant form of fertility   (Ahmed )

When I look back at that day, I think about the irony of the whole thing - his inability to let go of normative expectations/language resulted in the sudden fashioning of a much more gender-bending scenario than the one we were experiencing.